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[275] Celebrating Yourself: Birthday Reflections and Life Lessons at 35

• Jess Clerke • Episode 275

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Ever notice how we celebrate birthdays with unbridled joy as children, then somehow shift to brushing them off as adults? At 35, I'm reclaiming the magic of celebration and sharing the life wisdom that's transformed my perspective along the way.

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Welcome to Selfish Confidence, a place where we can connect and be real about how hard it is to be your damn self. My name is Jess and my goal is to help you build confidence and belief in yourself to live any life path you want, even if it's unconventional. It's time to flip off societal pressures and connect with women who've also felt on the outside by their life choices. We're here to encourage you to grab the mic and speak your truth. I know it can be scary, but we're in this together. Let's get started. Hello, hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Selfish Confidence Podcast. It's Jess here and I have a question for you.

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Is there anything better than an everything shower? Like head to toe, like I heard, the first shower after you give birth is like the most magical experience. I wouldn't say that was the case for me. I didn't find that, but in general, a shower, especially an everything shower with, like you did, your hair, you shaved, you feel so good, like I smell so good right now and I just think there's nothing better than that, and I even started hair oiling. My friend, katie Saltzman was talking about it on her podcast and I was like you know what? Maybe I should try this hair oiling thing to get on top of postpartum hair loss. If that's going to happen, I don't know, but I did it and my hair smells great. It feels great. I just can't stop touching my hair and I just I'm feeling really good. I am feeling really good, and I hope that you are today too. I hope that you have something that brings you as much joy as an everything shower does for me, but maybe it's just me. I don't think it is, though. Especially where you just don't always get the opportunity to to clean yourself totally up, it's often a rushed shower, but Glenn has the baby right now and everything is just. Yeah, he's sleeping and I'm gonna soak it up by spending some time with myself. I got some scheduled posts in the sisterhood done, and I wanted to spend some time with you too, and today I wanted to talk to you about some things that I learned just in life in general.

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So just this week I celebrated my 35th birthday, and I really didn't know what to expect as my first birthday as a mom, but one of the things that I have just been thinking about a lot lately, and Glenn and I my husband and I have been talking about this, where I want him to know that you deserve to be celebrated, and not just when you're a kid, but when you're an adult too, because I just often see a lot of us brush our birthdays off, or brush even any kind of celebration off, or just like I don't need to my the attention, or like we're a little uncomfortable with the attention that comes on our birthdays, or there's just a lot, I think, around it, but when you're a kid, hot diggity dog, it's like the best day ever. Right, you're counting down to your birthday and we used to celebrate birthdays really hard growing up, like there was always a big party and, yeah, massive celebrations, and then even into our teen and young adult years, like we would celebrate our birthdays myself and my two best friends like really hard, like we went all out like surprise, full surprise days and it was just so much fun to be celebrated and also to allow other people to love on you too. And I just feel like I don't know something shifted, and maybe this is just me. If you're listening to this, please tell me your, how you feel about your birthday. Do you enjoy big celebrations? Do you plan something for yourself? Do you let other people surprise you? Do you just go with the flow? Do you do nothing? Tell me what it is for you.

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But really, probably since COVID I think, I started to shift away from even celebrating my birthday. Even before that probably, and I don't know why or what happened. I have some theories in my head about like how it kind of shifted and why I decided to like step away from any kind of celebration. But really this year I just had this pull to celebrate myself in a way that felt good. I actually had a few friends rejudge me and they're like okay, what do you want to do for your birthday? And I was like, wow, like that's a, like that's really kind that we can, yeah, do something and celebrate together and have some fun. And again, I just really want to teach my kid that you celebrate your birthdays.

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It doesn't matter if it's big or small, but you get to do whatever it is that you want to do on your birthday and that's communicated Like I'll ask you what you want. I'm going to ask you what kind of cake you want. I'm going to ask you, you know what you want to do. I'm going to ask you all of these things. I'm not just going to assume you want something or want to do something. I want to know what you want, and maybe that's why, as adults, we're just not very good at that. And correct me if I'm wrong, maybe you're great at that. I love that for you, but I think so many of us are just like I don't know. Whatever you want to do, it's like it's your freaking birthday, like that's my number one question that I ask people, especially my clients.

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It's like if it was your birthday tomorrow, what would you want to do? But it's such a difficult question and this year I had picked something that I really wanted to do and unfortunately, mother nature did not agree. She said, nah, we're going to send you 50 millimeters of rain instead of you being able to go and do this thing. So we, we made alternate plans and we went to this really beautiful cafe here it's called creme and had lattes and brunch and just hung out with the girls and it was just a really special day to connect and to chat things and all all the stuff. But I ask you that, like, if tomorrow was your birthday, maybe tomorrow is your birthday. Maybe today, when you're listening to this, is your birthday, happy birthday.

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And if it's not, let's pretend if tomorrow was your birthday and you could celebrate in any way you wanted, like no limit on money, no limit on opportunities. Like hypothetically, we're planning this out anyway. So like, let's put no limits on ourselves, what would you do? What would you do and it doesn't matter if your partner wouldn't want to do that with you, or if you're like, oh, I'd have to go alone, or anything Like there's no, we don't need excuses in this dream but what would you do with your one special day?

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Because, in all honesty, I was thinking about this as a woman. We just don't really get a lot of these days to celebrate ourselves and I think it's partly self-imposed. I think that we could be doing a little bit more right, we could be taking advantage a little bit more of the time that we have and the celebrations that we can do, but we just don't. And, yeah, we just don't make the time. We let the excuses kick in, and I can see it happening more and more, even with only having a three-month old.

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I can only imagine when you have multiple kids and lives and soccer practice and gymnastics and dentist appointments and all of the things, and you're just like, oh, it's just another day. It's not just another day Like. You deserve to be celebrated. You deserve to be loved and doubted on and just like all like. I just believe you deserve to be celebrated. But that really does come from that belief within yourself that you deserve to be celebrated, right? Because I think sometimes we just push it to the side. Anyways, the point of this is, I want to share with you a couple of things I feel like were big life lessons in the last 35 years and even really in the last five years that I wanted to share with you because maybe they're something insightful for you too.

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But before we get into this, I wanted to share with you two quick things. One, doors to the Sisterhood are opening up at the beginning of May. It's the first Monday in May and I don't know what that date is because I don't have a calendar in front of me, but I will put it all in the show notes for you. This is the first time that they're opening up since I went on maternity leave, so probably since January, and we're only opening them up every three months. So instead of us having doors open every month and you can come in, it's only opening every three months. The next time will be in the summer. So if you've been thinking about joining the Selfish Sisterhood and you're like I don't know if it's the right time or it's the right time, it is a great time to hop in there, because we have some really really cool workshops happening. In May, I'm doing a workshop all about your human design and really figuring out some of the basic key pieces of it for you to help you to have more confidence. We're also having hormone and self-care workshops and some really cool like crafting workshops coming up.

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Anyways, we have so many really exciting things that are happening in that community. We've just added a book club also, and I really believe that this is a place that helps you to start these foundational pieces like learning to celebrate yourself and being open about the things going on in your life, like having a place where you can just tell people what's happening and know that it's going to stay there. A lot of our calls aren't recorded for that reason, because I think that we deserve to have a place where we can say things and it not come back to bite us in the butt, right, and not come back in a recording and be like, hey, I saw that thing you said. Like, our sisterhood chats and our biz chats in the selfish sisterhood are not recorded, because I want you to be able to come in and feel safe to talk about absolutely anything. You don't have to have even your camera on, like you don't. You could just come and listen to what other people are saying, and I really love what has been created in this community in the last three years and it's just safety and strength and love and confidence and a foundation for you to get to know this version of yourself that maybe you haven't had the opportunity or time to do so.

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I will put all the information in the show notes for you. There is a monthly, a quarterly and an annual price for you to be able to get your membership. You can cancel anytime. So even if you came in, you just tried it for a month, you can cancel anytime and I just yeah, I would love to have you in there. I really love this space. I love spending time with the sisters every Tuesday night. Right now, our calls are on Tuesday nights from 8 o'clock Atlantic Standard Time to 9 o'clock Atlantic Standard Time and we just yeah. There's a variety of different topics that we talk about, but it is going to be really epic these next three months and that leads me into the next piece is Barbados Retreat 2026 is happening. It is happening. We have found the perfect villa in Barbados. It sleeps nine to 10 people and it's going to be happening May 3rd to May 9th 2026.

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Sisterhood you get first dibs, as per usual, and with there only being 10 spots, I feel like that's pretty, pretty great Good chances. If you're in the selfishness and you want to attend the retreat, you'll get a full 24 hours before it gets released to the public. There's a good chance you'll be able to secure your spot. If you're not in the sisterhood and you're listening to this and you're like I want to go so bad to that retreat, I cannot 100% guarantee that there's going to be spots left after that first 24 hours. I'll be totally honest with you. Our going to be spots left after that first 24 hours. I'll be totally honest with you. Our wait list is beautifully long, but you might want to get into the sisterhood so that you can snag that spot when it launches.

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I think it was May 12th that it was going to be coming out. That's going to give you enough time to be able to have a full year of payment plans and it is, yeah, I'm just excited. I'm really excited to be going back to Barbados, and I've been talking to some of the girls who were there last time who were just like, yes, let's go back. We talked about other islands and trying something new, but there's just something really magical about going back there, and I think for me too, where it's somewhere I'm very familiar, it helps me to coordinate and plan these retreats with less stress and less hiccups, I find, because it's like I know where things are, I know where we're going and that just is. I know who to contact. Anyways, I'm so, so, so excited. This house is going to blow your mind. Ok, it's going to blow your mind, and I'm just finishing on some of the final, final details, but that will be coming out soon. You'll have all of the information before it goes on sale on May 12th, so you can make your decision on if it's something that feels good for you or not. So I will put that information in the show notes too. So, doors open to Sisterhood next week and then, may 12th, doors for the retreat are going to go on sale. That being said, let's get into.

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Yeah, the few things I have here on my list of just what I've learned in the last little bit. Like if I could go back and talk to my younger self. There are things that I would tell her. But even better if there was a younger woman, let's say someone who's even 25, right 20, 25, who's starting this adventure into their life. There are things that I would love to share with her If she were interested, if she wanted to know what could just make things a little easier, could just make things a little easier.

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There are people who I looked up to a lot when I was younger, who, you know, could teach me some things, could help me and guide me and move me in a direction that got me here. There's definitely influential people in my life who helped me to take the steps in this direction, and I think part of that is also from ourselves. It's like we can listen to all of the podcasts, we can read all the books, we can do all the courses, but if we don't tune into what's inside ourselves, like I think that's the best teacher, that stillness, that slow down season, that reflection in yourself, like you are the greatest teacher in the whole world, right, you know yourself better than anyone else in this world, so why not allow yourself that space to discover it and to really sit in it? And there's something about this society that has told us that we aren't good enough unless we have the credentials unless we have you know, we went to university unless we, you know, have that stable job, unless we have like. The list could go on. But there are things that we know within ourselves that cannot be taught.

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And a friend of mine I was talking with on the last week, she told me that, because I have been thinking about that stuff a lot Like, oh well, I could sign up for this course or I could do that, or maybe I should have this. And she's like Jess, what you do cannot be taught in a course. You are going to sign up for a course and you're going to go into it and you're just going to pick it apart and be like this is dumb. What you do is not in any courses, so stop thinking that you need something else in order to be valid. Right, and maybe you need that reminder too. Right, we don't need another course. We don't have to go back to university to be worthy and to be valuable in this world.

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That is like one of the biggest life lessons that I've learned, and one that I'm really trying to lean into a lot more recently, is just, yeah, you're valuable exactly as you are and you don't need more. Finding that within yourself is going to be the best thing you can do for yourself. The best gift you can have for yourself is to go inward and to spend that quality time getting to know yourself, and all the things you've ever imagined are going to start pouring out of you. But I didn't even know. I knew that stuff, especially if you have done a lot of reading and a lot of courses. Like you have stuff hanging out in there that's been in there for a long time that you just don't even know you have access to. So spend that quality time with yourself. It kind of leads me into the first thing here. It's just about like slowing down.

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One of my favorite songs is Be A Light. I think it's like Rua McIntyre and Thomas Rhett and it's just like a whole bunch of artists who sing it, and my favorite lyric in the song is in a race that you can't win, slow it down. Yeah, you only get one go around because the finish line is six feet in the ground. In a race that you can't win, just slow it down. And I just, oh, I've cried so many times listening to that. It's like the finish line is six feet in the ground, like the finish line is death. Right, we are racing to a finish line that, for many of us, we don't want, right?

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You think of all the regrets that happen when you sit on your deathbed. And we've heard all the stories right of of people. They've been asked so many times like what's their biggest regret? And for so many of them it's, you know, to spend more time with family. Or to, you know, to cherish the moments and blah, blah, all the cheesiest things. Right, because they're the truth. They're so freaking cheesy and we can be like ha, wouldn't that be nice.

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But in all, it's like what are we rushing for, right? Why are you racing in the car, in the grocery store, through life? Like always, just racing. And that's one thing I've noticed it's like I could just be like speeding for no reason. It's like I have nowhere to be that quickly reason. It's like I have nowhere to be that quickly, like I'm just going fast for the sake of going fast, because it's a habit to like boogie, boogie, boogie, to go Like.

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It's just so silly to me when I think about it that we don't need to be speeding through life. One because we do not know when our last day on earth is going to be and we do not want to rush to get there. And two, because, again, we don't know when that day is going to be. It could be tomorrow, it could be tomorrow, and what you do today matters, what you do right now matters, and I think that that when I play it back in my head because I can get really caught up in this too right, like, especially now, having a baby like it's, either I have two speeds. Having a baby like it's.

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Either I have two speeds slow as cold molasses, because this baby just wants to nap on you and eat all day and all the things, or rushing, because you only have a small window to be able to record something like this or to go to the grocery store. It's like you got to go as fast as you can because your window is so small. But what if we could somewhere be in the middle and even not even in the middle, just embracing that slow side a little bit more, and I know we have things to do and places to go, but I bet if you were to ask yourself 10 years from now what you'd want to tell yourself, it would be to enjoy the moments and to slow it down and to cherish things a little bit more. Right? Because that's the number one thing we hear about people on their deathbeds that they wish they could hold their baby one more time. And even as I think about that, I want to cry because I'm in that season and I just never want to rush it away. And the times that I want to that it is rushed is oftentimes when things are really busy. So I get it, but I'm trying to be here and I know future me is going to wish for this moment, so I'm soaking it up as much as I can. So that's like the number one thing that if I could tell myself my younger self, or even someone who's just starting their life, I would tell them to slow down. You do not need to be going faster. There's really a lot of beauty in enjoying the moments and being at peace and not rushing, because I think we come from this fast paced society that I hope is starting to slow down a bit more, but I don't know. It's busy out there and I get it. Another one of the life lessons that I just have learned in the last 35 years is your worst days build your best days.

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I did not plan for this to be like a lyrical podcast episode, but one of my favorite songs and you're going to think this is funny is called 100 Bad Days by AJR. I don't even know who they are and I don't even know how I stumbled across them. I don't even know who they are and I don't even know how I stumbled across them, but I love that song so much and I jam to it all the time, especially when I'm having a bad day or when I need like a reframe on you know hard things that are happening and it talks about like a hundred bad days means a hundred bad stories. A hundred bad stories makes me interesting at parties, right. It's like these stories that we have of the bad days are the things that build us and make us interesting and connect us with other people, and that's the reason I have this podcast right, because I had a really hard season and even just recently going through pregnancy like these bad days.

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Air quotes. Bad days, these hard seasons, are what build us for our best days. They are what build us to better, stronger, happier people because we have this fluctuation. If life was all high notes, it just wouldn't be that fun. It would not, because those high notes would mean nothing. You should be like this is just the reality All the time we're happy. No, we need those fluctuations, we need that heartbeat, we need the highs and we need the lows, and I just think there's something really magical in having bad days.

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Not necessarily when I'm in them, like let's be real, they suck. When we're in them, like, oh man, do they ever suck? But they're what make you you, they're what help you to have different perspectives and to have stories and to have connections, and they're just, they're building your character and I just think that that's something really special because if we can see the bad days as actually good days, you can start to see the magic in these seasons that are really difficult. And for, if you're like me, it's often when I'm out of it and I can look back, like the day I had my baby, and I could look back on the last nine months of pregnancy and realize that I was depressed the entire time. I didn't know until I felt like myself again, or even, you know, being in the thick of living through the pandemic for all of us, right, not even just for my story, but for all of us like we can look back and see how it changed us. But when we were in it, stuck in our house, we couldn't see, right. And so I just think there's something really special of being able to look back and realize that those hard days are what build us to where we are now, and that is really cool.

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I would not be here sitting doing this podcast and I would not be who I am without dark seasons. And another thing for me is learning that signs are all around us. There is a book called Signs I need to look up the title for you, but I'll put it in the show notes and it talks about the different ways that the universe is speaking to us. And maybe you're not into the woo and I say that's okay, that's okay, but I use them as just like a gift, to be like, hey, keep going, you're on the right track. And that can be like angel numbers, like one, one, one, two, two, two, three, three, three. All the things.

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For me, my most popular angel number is one, two, three, four, or two, three, four, and that tells me like, okay, you're on the right track, you're moving in the right direction, steps are being taken and like even things like oh, you guys know this, but I'll stop and like stare at the birds and sometimes, if I feel like the bird is a sign for me, I might Google spiritual meaning of a woodpecker. Okay, that is just who I am Like when I had the porcupine in my yard if you saw it on my stories a few weeks ago. Of course I'm Googling like spiritual meaning of a porcupine and I just find that those signs regardless if I look up what the meaning is or I just interpret it as hey, like a sign to remind me to slow down is a big one. Like it reminds me to be present and to see. Like the other day I looked up and in our backyard were two hawks flying overhead. We never get in anything like that here, like we've been getting some cool birds lately, but I take that as a sign and I didn't have to Google what the spiritual meaning was. I just took it as like hey, be present, be in this moment, like, and it's just beautiful to see life in that way. Or you know, when you're driving and little ducklings are crossing the road, or like a deer are crossing the road and or a kitty, cat Right, and it's just a moment to slow down and to pause and to remember why we're here, right, like these animals are not on anyone else's timelines, they are not looking at their Apple Watch to be like I got to get my steps in. They're just living and these beautiful signs are around us all the time and I think if we can just open our eyes a bit more again, stop rushing and slow it down, we are going to see these signs and I just find that to be like one of the most beautiful pieces of life, like I really do, and I feel so cheesy as I say it, but it is so true. To me, there is nothing more beautiful than a bird in my backyard or, you know, seeing some synchronicities in the world, or running into an old friend in the grocery store, and it's like absolute fate that you'd be in the same grocery store at the same time, just like bumping into each other, and it's just so beautiful. These little moments. They're great signs for pushing us in the right directions and trusting our intuition a bit more.

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And another piece of that, when it leads into intuition, is like human design changed my life knowing my human design and this is like my fourth thing on the list. I have five things, so let me I'm a wrapping this up for you. Okay, I'm putting a bow on it because human design changed my life, like really understanding who I am on this level. And had I not gotten my haircut I've talked about this on the podcast got my haircut at a specific studio in Barbados with someone who's become a friend of mine. She told me about human design and it changed everything for me, because my type is just different than what our societal standard is and maybe yours is too.

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You felt like an outcast and I just feel like it's a permission slip for you to understand yourself on a different level that the world just does not give you. And maybe you're listening to this and you're like I have no idea what you're talking about. Jess, it's basically kind of like your zodiac sign, but a lot more specific. But you do need your birth time and your date of birth to figure out your human design. Happy to help walk you through it, but there's something just really special about knowing that you have a purpose. It's written in your chart, like they would say it's written in the stars, and it helps you like.

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I have never had someone say like that just doesn't make sense. Every person I've done a reading for is like this blows my mind. That is so me, and I was very unaligned in it when I first learned about it and I could not see myself in my type. I'm like no, no, no, no, no, that is not me, I cannot be like that. And now, as I learned it more and more, I'm like oh right, I was just super unaligned and so I needed that reminder to do things differently, to lean into slower, into a slower lifestyle. And what's really beautiful about human design is I can use it now to understand my son, who is again, he's only three months old, but it helps me to connect with him a bit more, knowing that maybe he needs more time or more space for certain things. It's just really, really cool and an interesting tool. And if you're like, I'd love to learn more about that. Jess, I do readings. I can help guide you through your own chart or you can join the Selfish Sisterhood. We're doing a workshop in May that's going to help guide you through, like a self guide, through your own chart, and I'm really, really excited because, again, it can change things in your life if you start to lean into living your life by design.

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And then the last thing I had on my list that I felt was like, just like, yeah, a lesson that makes me smile is that kindness and love goes a long way. I didn't think that I could build a business based on kindness and love. I thought that that was silly, willy right, that the world would never support something like this because we're all about productivity. But I learned that actually, kindness and love goes a really long way and people are looking for that in the world. The right people are seeking that. It's not all about productivity, it's not all about what you can achieve. Sometimes we just need to be loved, sometimes we just need to be seen, and adding that into your daily practices can go so far, and this can be in business, this can be in life, this could be in your parenting journey, this could be with your friendships.

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But, like, kindness and love goes a long way, and even just a friend reaching out and saying hey, how do you want to celebrate your birthday? You know I want to celebrate you, that love shows you so much more than any you know any like. I want to say, like work, that you could do right, like any productivity, any anything. It just it's more than anything and I am a little sappy with that stuff. I'm going to tell all my friends I love them. I'm going to tell my family I love them.

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I'm going to prioritize love over everything and actually one of the things that I had on my vision board this year was the theme and the focus for this year was experiment and do all things with love. So let parenting be an experiment. So I didn't put so much stress and pressure on myself in this season. That business could be experimental right now, but also with that foundation and that underlying season of love, I wanted it to be always focused on love and I think the more that I can do that, the more I get a better foundation in myself and also I attract more really cool people in my life. When I have that right energy, I feel like it makes a really big difference in who I attract in my life.

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If I'm focused on hate and focused on darkness, I'm going to attract more people who are dark and hatred. I don't want that. No, thank you. Rainbows and sparkles, please Glitter over here, and of course I understand that is not all rainbows and butterflies all the time, but if I can lean on it more and attract it more, it's going to feel so much better for me. So those are just some of the things that I've learned, and I feel like I could make a list, a massive list, and really lean into some of these things that I've learned.

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But these are like the basic, foundational pieces, and I think it also helps me to think about my values more, like to slow it down and to be present, to know that the bad days are actually building good days and that there's beauty and signs all around us, like after they're being fogged for the last, like two days. I look out the window right now and the sun is shining. It is shining and I take that as a sign, a sign of beauty and love and renewal, and the new moon is also happening and it's just all of the things, right, and maybe that's a little too woo for you, and I get it. I see you, my friend. I used to think that stuff was weird too, but I just love having something to believe in and seeing the signs and the beauty all around us is just a really nice way, I think, to lean into it. And then, of course, that human design can absolutely change your life. Understanding your human design, knowing more about human design, can really help you to shift your perspective on yourself and see your gifts is absolutely huge, helps you to have more confidence 100% helped me to have more confidence. And then, of course, that kindness and love, above all like it, can go a long way when you do things through kindness and love in this world, way more than leaning into that energy of hatred and discomfort and darkness. Love cures all okay, and I truly, truly, truly do believe that, of course, modern medicine is also great, but do it with love, do it with love, but that's it. That's it for this week and I've just been really reflecting on this next year and I can 100% say I have never felt more like myself than I have since becoming a mom and I have had a really, really beautiful postpartum journey and I just know that this year might be the best year. It really might be the best year. I feel like an absolute new version of myself in this journey and I'm loving it.

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I even had to pause this episode halfway through recording it because our little guy pooped his pants and I'm still recording in our nursery. So Glenn had to come in, we had to clean him up and then I figured I'd feed him. So we had a little pause break in between this and it just helped me to remember that we don't have to rush through all this stuff, to slow it down, to remember what's important and to be present in it. And so a quick little bath break and a little feed and break and I was able to sit back down and to record this. And also, I will say, too real quick is.

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I had a friend of mine reach out to me who has been considering this journey too and has had a lot of questions where I debated it for a really long time and she was so nervous about losing her passions for something like podcasting or her business and things like that. And although it looks different and it feels different and maybe you can energetically feel that too here I've never lost the passion to hang out with you and to record these episodes Like I absolutely love it. It just is different, it feels different. It is different and, yeah, I think, if it is important to you, you're not going to lose it, right? It just is going to look different and so, if you're listening to this and you're just like, I'm afraid of these new seasons in my life, it's going to change who I am.

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Embrace the change, because the version of you on the other side of that is a very beautiful version of you, and you might not believe it because you love the version of yourself now, but I promise you it just keeps getting better. It just keeps getting better and I'm just so grateful that we get to go through this together. So I love you so much. I hope that you have a great week and I will talk to you next time. What's up, sis? I am so glad we could hang out today. If you love this episode, send it to a friend or share it on your social media and tag me so I can personally thank you for helping me sprinkle some confidence in the world. And don't forget you are magic. Let's show the world your shine.

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Jess Clerke

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