In this chaotic holiday season, I want to help you build your holiday confidence. I have some game-changing insights on the art of adaptability, prioritizing self-care, and remaining flexible when plans go awry.
Instead of adding more tasks to your already overflowing to-do list, I'll guide you on finding what works for you. I'm here to remind you that you control your life and being adaptable can help you navigate the unexpected twists and turns. Get inspired, boost your resilience, and learn to navigate the holiday season confidently.
Don’t forget to insert your code word for a chance to win tuition to our upcoming confidently you in 12 weeks program.
Enter the secret code word into the link here in our show notes or in our daily email.
Let’s embrace change together and make the most of this holiday season!
Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!
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In this chaotic holiday season, I want to help you build your holiday confidence. I have some game-changing insights on the art of adaptability, prioritizing self-care, and remaining flexible when plans go awry.
Instead of adding more tasks to your already overflowing to-do list, I'll guide you on finding what works for you. I'm here to remind you that you control your life and being adaptable can help you navigate the unexpected twists and turns. Get inspired, boost your resilience, and learn to navigate the holiday season confidently.
Don’t forget to insert your code word for a chance to win tuition to our upcoming confidently you in 12 weeks program.
Enter the secret code word into the link here in our show notes or in our daily email.
Let’s embrace change together and make the most of this holiday season!
Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!
Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com
If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋
My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke
The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence
Hello, hello and welcome to day 11 of the 12 Days of Confidence. That means we are just getting so much closer to Christmas and I'm both excited and a little anxious, I don't know. How does that make you feel? How are you feeling at the being day 11, which means there's only a couple weeks until it's Christmas Day? Wow, and I'm really trying to lean into that excited energy, that energy of like, ah, the holidays are here, this is so much fun. I'm really enjoying this. But I know and I bet you're feeling the same way too you still see that long to do list of the things that you have to do, the things you have to pick up the meals, you have to cook the cookies, you have to bake, all of the things that you just feel this extra pressure to do. And with the idea of there being only two weeks, you're just like hot diggity dog. I have two weeks to finish this massive list of things and if that's you today, I just want you to know I see you, I'm with you. I want you to just put one hand on your heart right now and remind yourself of how freaking proud you are of yourself for getting to today, december 11th, if you're listening to this in real time, december 11th 2023, you have made it through almost the whole year of 2023. Wow, like that is such a huge accomplishment and if we put aside everything that we have done, it doesn't matter the merits that you've made for success or whatever the fact that you're here right now listening to this and spending some time for you, spending some time with me I don't know how much for being here, but what a beautiful gift it is that you have today. And I'm going to try to not get too sappy with you today, because I know the last couple of days have been a lot.
Speaker 1:Some of these topics that we're talking about to really solidify our confidence, not only this season, but as we walk into 2024, it can be really heavy and it's so many things to think about all at once. It's like, okay, well, I have to check in with my body and okay, well, I have to wear clothes that feel really good. Okay, I need to prioritize the people who are important to me and I have to cut the people who aren't. And it's a lot, I know. But if you were to look at the last 10 days, and even just the last year, what were the things and the pieces that made you feel the most confident, and how can we have more of that every single day? It's not about adding more to your list, especially this time of year. It's about prioritizing what's important and doing the things that make us feel good, because, again, some of these things that make me feel freaking amazing might make you feel like crap right, and vice versa. It's so important to find the things that make you feel good, the outfits that make you feel good, the activities that make you feel good, because they're going to be different for each and every one of us. We're beautifully unique and that is just like the best part of it, but that's why it's also harder, because we have to put in the work to find the things that work for us.
Speaker 1:And today I wanted to talk to you about being adaptable in everything this time of year, around the holidays, but also just in life. Being adaptable, being able to change, being able to pivot and do the things differently. When things aren't working the way that we thought they would, we can make changes right Because we're in control. Being flexible and being adaptable is like a huge piece to your confidence. It is like a great gift that you can give yourself to be able to change when things just aren't working the way that you thought they would.
Speaker 1:And that happened this weekend. My husband he had his Christmas party and I talked about it when we were talking about the holiday dresses and the dress did not come in in time. It still isn't here. And with this holiday party, I was like, dang, I'm going to have to go to the mall. It's Saturday, it's going to be busy, like oh, this is going to be a lot, but I'm going to do it because I want to find something I feel really good in. I did not want the same thing that happened last year to happen this year, where I was just self-conscious, I wasn't feeling really good in my skin and I was just like not able to enjoy the party. I was like, no, we're not going to do that again. Okay, I didn't come.
Speaker 1:I'm a last minute lady. Okay, I tend to like to last minute shop. I shouldn't say I like it, I tend to last minute shop. And so what's? This? Really wasn't anything new for me to have to go out shopping.
Speaker 1:And I messaged a girlfriend in the morning and she's like oh, what do you have on your plate today and I was like, oh, my dress didn't come in. I have to go out to the mall. And she's like I think I have something that would work. And she sent me some pictures and I was like you know what I really don't want to go shop in. I'm going to make that work, sweet Thanks. And so I grabbed the dress and I didn't even try it on. I was like I'm going to be able to make this work, we're good. I did not try it on all day. I got a few things like some earrings to go with it and I was like this is going to be fine, it's going to be great, I can make this work. Thank you so much to my girlfriend for saving the day Minutes before we leave for the party.
Speaker 1:I put the dress on Okay, and I don't know why we didn't think about this but my boobs were bigger than my friends and they be popping. They be popping out of this dress and it was one that kind of like clipped, so like. It was like a wrap dress and it clipped, and where it clipped was a big. It's almost like when you're buttoning up a shirt and the buttons are not lining up flat. It was exactly like that and I was like I don't know what to do. I literally have nothing else to wear, like Glenn's like just wear, like what you spoke on stage with, or wear this. Or I was like I can't wear a hot pink Barbie jacket to the Christmas party Going back.
Speaker 1:Now I definitely could have, I don't know, but I almost threw the towel in, like I was like you know what? I have nothing else to wear. We're not going and honestly, I probably would have been okay with it because, you know, a Saturday night is best on the couch cozy up. But we really wanted to go. The food is 10 out of 10. We have to go and get this beautiful meal.
Speaker 1:And so we were trying to problem solve Like we do have a safety pin that we could kind of pin it shut so that you know you're not flashing everyone. And we couldn't find anything that could make this dress work. And I finally was like you know what? I'm going to put a tang top on underneath it so that the girls aren't showing. But I can just leave the button opened up and honestly, I'm not even going to pretend that it was that easy of me just being like you know what I'm going to do.
Speaker 1:I really thought we were going to throw the towel in, like I had nothing else to wear. I'd kick in myself for not trying on the dress before minutes we were leaving. That's just how I do, okay, and if you know much about human design, it's kind of just who I am. Okay, it's in my chart. The long story short put the tank top underneath and I was adaptable, right, we made the dress work and I went to the dinner and I still felt really good. I was a little worried that things were going to pop open, but overall it was a really beautiful experience because I could get out of my own head and be present and remember why we were there. We were there to make memories and to see people and to celebrate and to enjoy a beautiful dinner and just to have some time together.
Speaker 1:Glenn and I do not get dressed up very often and I wanted to look nice for him. Right, I wanted it to be a special moment because we just just we just don't do it very often. And had I not been adaptable, had I not been flexible, not only with my dress not coming in, you know, borrowing something from a friend figuring out how to wear it when it didn't quite work, I wouldn't have had that moment, I wouldn't have had those memories and the delicious meal that we got to have together with our friends, because I would have let a dress and it not fitting right ruin all of the fun. And this is just your reminder that if the holiday baking gets burnt or if you know someone special to you isn't showing up for the holidays or life just looks a little different this year, it's okay. It's okay if things are different.
Speaker 1:The more flexible you are, the more open you are to things being different and change happening, the better you're going to feel Right, because we get so caught up in everything having to be one way, everything having to be perfect. It's never going to be perfect and the sooner we can remember that the better our holidays are going to be, the better our days are going to be. Life throws us curveballs all the time. We have been getting so many fricking curveballs over the last couple months. But that adaptability and that flexibility makes it that I can keep going, that I can keep smiling, that I can keep showing up and keep making these episodes for you.
Speaker 1:But has that, had I let all of those things get to me, I wouldn't be sitting here making these episodes and be crying in my bedroom and don't get me wrong, I have a good cry, but I can shake it off and I can get back up and so can you. So where can you be a little more flexible this holiday season? Where can you change things up and be a little more adaptable and be okay with change? And I know it's hard, I know it can be hard. It can be hard, but you totally got this.
Speaker 1:And if you are playing, our giveaway every single day for the last 11 episodes if we're including today has a secret code word in it and that secret code word you can enter in the link in the show notes or in the daily emails that you get. So you can go in, put all your information in and just in a couple of days I will be drawing from all of those entries for someone to win tuition to the brand new confidently you in 12 weeks program that's coming out in January, and this is really to help you solidify your confidence, to help you to create the habits that are really going to set you up for the most confident year of your life, and I am so freaking excited to put this together for you, and so today's code word is adaptability, adaptability. We are going to adapt a little more this holiday season. I see you and I'm so freaking proud of you. Can't wait to talk to you tomorrow. Have an awesome day.