Ever been to a holiday party and felt uncomfortable in your own skin? I've been there, and I know many of you have too. This episode is all about body confidence, particularly during those festive events. I share my personal journey of body acceptance, and give you some tips to help make those parties feel less stressful, and more you. Yes, we're talking holiday attire – but it's not just about the clothes. It's about choosing pieces that reflect your true self and offer comfort as well as style.
Now, imagine having that confidence every single day, for 12 whole weeks! Sounds too good to be true, right? But it isn't. In the second part of the episode, we're introducing our Confidently You program, designed to help maintain your newfound confidence. Plus, there's a chance to win a scholarship for this transformative program. All you have to do is use the keyword when submitting your entry.
So, are you ready to love your body and boost your confidence? Get ready for a journey that could change your life!
Enter the draw by using the keyword here in the show notes or our daily emails.
Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!
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Ever been to a holiday party and felt uncomfortable in your own skin? I've been there, and I know many of you have too. This episode is all about body confidence, particularly during those festive events. I share my personal journey of body acceptance, and give you some tips to help make those parties feel less stressful, and more you. Yes, we're talking holiday attire – but it's not just about the clothes. It's about choosing pieces that reflect your true self and offer comfort as well as style.
Now, imagine having that confidence every single day, for 12 whole weeks! Sounds too good to be true, right? But it isn't. In the second part of the episode, we're introducing our Confidently You program, designed to help maintain your newfound confidence. Plus, there's a chance to win a scholarship for this transformative program. All you have to do is use the keyword when submitting your entry.
So, are you ready to love your body and boost your confidence? Get ready for a journey that could change your life!
Enter the draw by using the keyword here in the show notes or our daily emails.
Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love!
Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com
If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋
My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke
The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence
Hello, hello and welcome to day six of the 12 Days of Confidence. I have been wanting to do this episode in particular for a really long time and for a lot of different reasons, but I remember last year in particular, we went to my husband's holiday party and it was probably the first time in a while, especially with my body changing and life looking really different and still trying to deal with all the stuff that I was dealing with last year, I had a really difficult time walking into the holiday party. We used to really enjoy this party, and not that we don't enjoy it now. It's just different, you know, as the night you would get a hotel room and it would be a big party and you and all of the people would be just like having a real good time, if you know what I mean. But since COVID and since, like just a lot of things changing and some people who don't work with Glenn anymore and just you know, aging, things are different and life is different. The party is different and last year I noticed it a lot and even just in my discomfort in my body. Now I've come a long way since then, but maybe you're listening to this and you're like I feel you, I hear you.
Speaker 1:There is some discomfort in my body and the idea of putting on a holiday dress and maybe it's the holiday dress that you wear every year, that's been sitting in your closet for years and this year it just doesn't fit or it's uncomfortable, or it just doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel like you anymore, but yet for some reason, we squeeze ourselves into these dresses to, I don't know, feel a certain way, to think a certain way, to kind of follow a tradition that we have every single year. It's sometimes hard to give up these traditions or how things used to be when things have changed so much in our lives, including our bodies, and I really wanted to make a couple episodes in the 12 days of confidence about bodies in particular and about, you know, holiday attire and the wear and maybe things that we used to wear again that just don't feel like us anymore or don't fit. And if you're like sis, I hear you, okay, jess, like I am with you, I get it. I want you to take a second right now, take a deep breath in, let it all out and say to yourself and say to your body I love you, I love you body, I thank you for getting me through this year, for being there through all of these really hard times and for supporting me through this season. I'm grateful for you and it's okay that you changed. I changed too, right, mentally and physically. We change and that's okay, especially as women and as I'm getting ready to go to the holiday party with Glenn this weekend, which has the best food Like. It's so much fun. It has the best food. It is a good time. It's just different than how it used to be.
Speaker 1:I have picked a new dress, one that I think I'll look smashing in okay, as all I gotta say and I really picked one that I felt comfortable in, that I felt safe in, and it wasn't about the look, it was just more about how I would feel, and I wanted to talk to you about that today, because we can be really hard on ourselves this time of year. There's just like an extra layer that if everything's not perfect, we just feel like garbage. We feel like the worst partners and the worst moms for not doing things a certain way or for it to not look this way, like there's a lot of pressure, but the only person putting that pressure on is you. It's you putting this pressure on yourself. So I wanted to give you a few tips today to help with body confidence around the holidays, especially if you're doing something like a holiday party or maybe even just like at home, when you're gonna be like cooking Christmas Eve dinner and doing all the things with the family, like feeling really good and comfortable and confident in the clothes and the outfits that you're choosing to wear for like even just like the Christmas jammies. This is your reminder.
Speaker 1:If your pants do not fit, or your jammies from last year are not comfortable anymore, or your underpants are too tight okay, and there's little marks on your legs, okay, cause your underpants are too tight, I'm there with you. I want you to stop what you're doing and go get some new underpants that are very comfortable okay, so comfortable that you never wanna take them off. And same with pants. I've had to get some stretchy pants this year, some extra stretchy pants. Sometimes. That's okay too. I'd rather you wear clothes that feel really good right now instead of wearing those pants from last year that are so tight that if you eat one more cookie, the buttons are gonna fling across the room. Okay, we do not want that. We don't want tight pants already, cause we're gonna be eating all the good things. I want you to get things that feel really good, but this takes practice.
Speaker 1:The number one thing when it comes to body confidence is finding clothes that feel good for you and also practicing wearing them. If the only time you put on the holiday dress is right before the party and you're still just like not sure how it fits, and your boobs are kind of popping out a little and they look real good, but you just don't feel that safe and comfortable in it, I want you to wear this dress for even like five minutes every day leading up to the event. And you know how they say like break in your shoes. So like you should wear your shoes around the house before an event. It's the same thing with dresses and with the outfits you wanna wear, because sometimes, when we put them on for the first time, we might feel really good, and other times we're just like not sure how it fits or we don't feel comfortable or it's something new for us. So the more you can practice wearing it before the event, the better you're gonna feel day of.
Speaker 1:And if when you're practicing the week before the event and it doesn't feel good. It still doesn't feel good, you don't feel super confident in it, you don't feel comfortable wearing it, you don't feel safe. I want you to get a new dress, whether that's going out and buying a new dress, or boring one from a friend, or going to the thrift store, like whatever it is you need to do. I want you to find something that you feel so freaking good in that when you walk into this party, you're not thinking, oh, I'm uncomfortable, everybody's looking at me, this is so horrible, I'm so ugly because I know we say these things to ourselves and they're so mean. Like we can be our worst critic. We can be so freaking mean, but not this year. Okay, we're walking into 2024 this year, and when we're walking into that year, we are bringing the good energy with us. We are not wasting our time telling ourselves that we're not good enough anymore. So take some time to practice, to practice speaking really positively to yourself and thinking positive things.
Speaker 1:When you're looking in the mirror, in this new outfit that you have or something you have had in your closet for a while, I want you to say three kind things to yourself. Wow, that color looks so nice on you. I didn't know your boobs could look that good Girl, you are fire. Okay, I want you to say three kind things to yourself every time you look in the mirror when you're practicing with this outfit. Because here's the thing nobody is saying that stuff about you. The only person saying that stuff is you.
Speaker 1:The negative stuff, the mean things. When you walk into a holiday party in a dress and you feel really freaking good and really confident in it and comfortable and safe, the rest of the world can see that. They can see the beauty that's radiating off you. And actually, even when you're saying these kind of mean things to yourself, the rest of the world is looking at your radiance. They're looking at your beauty. They're looking at how nice that color looks on you and how good your boobs look. They're not looking at the negative things. You're the only one saying that and I want to remind you of that, because if you can flip that switch and go into the kindness maybe not 100% of the time like even if it's just 25%, that's 25% better than it was last year, but if you can flip that even just a little bit, you're going to have a much better party. Because I really do think last year, had I done this, had I picked something I felt comfortable in, had I practiced a bit and spent some time talking to myself kindly, I would have had a better experience at the party and I wouldn't have been thinking about like ooh, like, just like how I felt in this dress that no longer served me anymore.
Speaker 1:So we're doing things differently this year. Are you with me? Are you ready to put on some clothes that feel really good and that you feel safe in? And if you're like heck frickin' yeah, I'm feeling good this holiday season and I am standing in that right now, I'm going shopping. I'm going to get even just a pair of jeans that I feel really good in. This doesn't have to be ball gowns. It's going to be like even your everyday comfy Christmas magic hoodies. If you have not seen these yet, they're so comfortable or so fun. It's the new selfish confidence, christmas merch. It's the best and I'm living in it.
Speaker 1:But if you are like feel ready to feel good and you found an outfit that you love, send me a picture. Okay, send me a picture and just be like girl, I feel good in this outfit and I would love to see it. And if you're playing for our tuition for the Confidently you program. If you're putting your keywords in every single day, you'll be entered every single time you enter a keyword in. I want you to use the keyword style S-T-Y-L-E style and put that in for your chance to win your tuition for the Confidently you program coming out in January, and I can't freaking wait. Imagine feeling this confident that we're feeling right now after doing this for five days, for 12 freaking weeks. Yes, yes, I can't wait. So I hope you have a wonderful week and that you're feeling really good because you are stunning, like so freaking beautiful, and you deserve to finally see it.